How are things with you today?
It is a bright sunshiny day again here in Cromarty, the sun is beating down upon me as I write sat on our front doorstep.
I woke up very early today, had a glance at the sea and sat down to meditate and affirm that which I am calling into my life. I journaled, danced and brewed fresh coffee, I put lavender and lemon essential oils in my diffuser and happily spent quality time with myself.
It felt good, nourishing and freeing.
How did you spend your morning?
“There is a place in you where there is perfect peace.”
- A Course in Miracles
Have you been tending your own needs lovingly and generously of late? If so, what does it look like, how do you gift yourself self-care and love?
I have found over many years of working with women that the thought of giving themselves time to nurture themselves in truly meaningful ways seems selfish to them.
We, as women, are often conditioned from a very young age, to serve others first.
We watch our mothers running around organising, looking after everyone and everything, never sitting to truly rest and be with themselves, we learn that this is what it is to be a woman. That everyone and everything else comes first.
That we are selfish if we choose us. I have certainly had to do some personal unravelling in this department!
Perhaps you have experienced some flavour of this?
I have personally been challenged by women when I share that it is important to prioritise our own mental, emotional and physical wellbeing, our spiritual health. That we must do something every day that brings us back into balance, that fills our own cup.
Whether that is to walk in nature, to dance, journal, read a good book undisturbed, meditate, practice yoga, breathwork, eat healthily or even close our bedroom door for a few moments to be with ourselves.
I have been told that it is selfish that I make sure, and have done so for many, many, years that I go for a long walk every day. I have often been heard to say that the day doesn’t quite go so well otherwise. I have been told by women that it's alright for some, as they would never have had the time to do so themselves.
Isn’t it amazing how tending our own hearts and needs, in self-full loving ways can be such a trigger for others?
Have you found this?
I know that the more we tend our needs, in a genuinely loving way the more we have to offer others.
Otherwise, we are giving from empty, we are depleting that which has already become dry.
I cannot see how this helps anyone in the long run, but rather it builds up as resentment, irritation, lack and dissatisfaction.
Surely if we place our own oxygen masks on, we may serve from a place of fullness and love? Whether that be in service of our loved ones, families, lovers, friends, our work or business.
I cannot advocate women becoming more depleted and dispassionate about life.
We need, in my opinion, more women who are lit up, in love with their lives, and dare I say it, in love with themselves!
We need women to feel the fulness of their being, the joy in their hearts and the power in their hips!
We need to inspire our daughters to choose themselves over and over again so that they are living life in a genuine and inspired, self-loving way.
It is vitally important that we tap into the peace that resides within and express this in a multitude of ways. It is important that we know our strengths and our weaknesses and how to receive support. It is vital that we live life on our terms, knowing that this will inspire others to do the same.
It is so important that we follow our own truth, blazing the path before us with insight, humility, passion, love and vitality.
It is paramount that we clear and heal what hinders us, so that we may live a life that is fully aligned with us.
It is vital that we show others the way, that we no longer give our power away, that we claim it in sovereign integrity, with love for all of mankind, so that we may birth new ways of being through us.
It is my desire that us as women, who are birthing the next generations to come, lead as the CEOs of our households with strength, peace and an emphasis on self-care, which equates to the genuine loving care of others too.
It is not healthful to keep giving and giving to depletion, it is not health-full to disvalue ourselves in the name of tending and pleasing others.
It is imperative that we know our own strength and live by it, trusting that the Universe holds us in tender loving care.
“There is a place in you where nothing is impossible.”
- A Course in Miracles
As lesson 47, from A Course in Miracles says: God is the strength in which I trust.
When we lean on the Divine to support us and provide us strength, then we may let go of our limiting beliefs in our own thinking and trying to work it all out.
We simply surrender knowing our strength and feeling our needs met in abundant supply.
We, in this way, may take the next step forwards, towards our dreams, with love, trust and infinite support.
In this way, we have more to give as we become the open vessel of love to share with others from the fullness of our radiant hearts.
With my love to you today, and all days.